I think that when it comes to being with (other) women, we find solace away from the male abusive sexual relationships. I have a friend who lives here locally with a drug dealer. She always comes to me for that comfort. Her life really sucks. It really does. The guy she lives with says you can\u2019t turn a hoe into a housewife. That\u2019s what he thinks of her. All she wants is to be the housewife so to speak. Consequently, they don\u2019t have sex. She gives him a blowjob. She gets crack. And she says she doesn\u2019t want it to be like that. And I\u2019m like well, that\u2019s the relationship you\u2019re in. She will come and want to be with me, because she\u2019s very uncomfortable in her situation. It\u2019s not a loving relationship and who better to understand than another woman whose been through that. You can find that comfort there.<\/p>\n
My female partner that doesn\u2019t live around here is the same way. We really find that comfort because we can call each other and say \u201cI got stood up on a date and this happened and that happened and men suck and I\u2019m gonna come see you\u201d. I guess I\u2019m glad to see that as a gender we can at least hold each other down. Keep each other moving somehow. Hold each other up.<\/p>\n
That\u2019s been my experience; the women that I am involved with have also had very bad sexual experiences with men. And I also know of another couple of lesbian couple that have had children out of rapes and never went back to a guy ever again. Being with another woman makes sense in my mind given the situations. And I could actually see myself in a long-term relationship with a woman. I really could. Just because I know it would feel safe. Even though I\u2019ve known of abusive women, its not as common and it wouldn\u2019t be likely that I would connect with a woman who was aggressive. I\u2019m looking for soft. Softness. \u200b<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
I think that when it comes to being with (other) women, we find solace away from the male abusive sexual relationships. I have a friend who lives here locally with a drug dealer. She always comes to me for that … Continue reading